Premarital sex or marriage first?

TirithRR · Aug 12, 2009

I'm waiting for the easily reversible clip on vasectomy that is in development. Less surgery, and then later you can be like "Hey, I want a kid now" and flip the switch back on easier and again with less surgery.

redoperator · Aug 13, 2009

like a clothes-pin?

TirithRR · Aug 13, 2009

Like a water valve.

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn13232-sperm-tap-planned-for-reversible-vasectomy.html?feedId=tech_rss20

1prinnydood · Aug 13, 2009

Natewlie said:

No, there's other ways to have sex without penetration. There's also other forms of birth control -use it.

No, not really. For some girls losing their virginity is one of the most painful things right before child birth. It hurt like hell for me, I did NOT like the first time for the pleasure, the intimacy was nice but was clouded by the fact that it hurt and my husband (boyfriend at the time) did not enjoy it either since he saw I was in pain.

So? That person is in a relationship for the wrong reasons, dump their ass, or go with it. Like sex and relationships, practice makes perfect.

There are tons of methods for birth control, look it up, if you're that scared use two forms (condom and the pill/whatever). Or use more, there are a lot of ways for birth control. If you're also that paranoid, get a vasectomy, or get the tubes tied, although the last two are probably a bit too harsh for a boyfriend/girlfriend scenario.

Sex for me is sort of a bond between two people. An emotional AND physical connection, with an extreme amount of intimacy even if the sex is good or bad (is there such thing as bad sex?), although this is only possible in a relationship. And to be honest, by the end of the night, without that connection, it'd feel kind of.. empty, kind of. Sex reminds me of golden silence. The powerful feelings of love are there with a lot more going on than realized.

Everyone who supports the idea of marriage before sex seems to bring up the idea that the first time, IT'S GOING TO BE SO AMAZING or more meaningful.

WRONG. It won't. It'll probably be a let down. The guy will probably have the sexual stamina so that you can make love for five minutes, that and depending on the girl, sex will probably be painful for her. Intimacy is there, but that's about it. My husband and I's first time sucked, yes, it was cute, but it sucked. Every other time we did it, it was about ten times better than the first time. Practice makes perfect, it still holds true even for sex. Sex isn't more or less meaningful as the first compared to the thousandth time, just like kids (the first kid is just as meaningful as the second kid), or kisses.

When we got married, we went to our honeymoon. Best sex ever, but it only came with practice.

inb4 tmi Natalie.
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Everything about this post is 100%. Great post and worthy of quoting fully.

redoperator · Aug 14, 2009

... wow... i better start having sex now

*gets in car and drives to some random chick's house

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