Premarital sex or marriage first?

Why not? I am not suggesting being an ass and blabbing about your latest sexual encounter to random strangers, but I see no problem with talking about your sex life. Sex is not a weird dirty secret.


but what if your partner doesnt want anybody else to know... not all girls are like kiss and tell..

 

I'd say that premarital sex is better choice.

I am aware that in some countries you will be shunned (or worse) for having a sexual intercourse before marriage. Still, where I live it is quite rare to be a virgin when you marry. Of course sex is not the only aspect in marriage, but it is quite important. If it so happens that you marry and discover that you and your partner are not compatible, what then? I think it would be better for both to have some experience beforehand.

Just as a side note, I lost my virginity at 17...

For some years we've been discussing virginity with my friends. We never really agreed on the most important question. "When do you lose it?" Is it when you have a sexual intercourse with someone that involves penetration? A penetration to where? (Use your brain, I'm not gonna be too explicit here..) What about lesbian couples then? Are they ever able to lose their virginity? And if gays can lose their virginity *that* way, could girl lose her virginity to a guy like that too? We've been arguing about this a lot.
Years ago, the virginity was proved if there was any blood on the sheets. (When the hymen broke.) Girls nowadays can brake their hymen by themselves too. For example horse back riding or using tampons is quite likely to do it. So, if breaking the hymen were the mark of losing ones virginity, I lost mine years before I even dated a single guy.

Hmm... maybe this went a bit off-topic, oh well.

For me I am eternally grateful for having sex. If I never did, I wouldn't have realised how I do not enjoy it with guys as much as I do with girls. If I had married a guy and found afterwards about my true sexual orientation... I can't even picture how awful that could have been...

 

If you aren't blinded by religion then premarital sex is the best choice no matter what

 

never have sex? never ever?? really??

 

You cant!
Come on?!?

 

oh...why??

 

This means you should be interested in it.
Think about it... ('',)
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AWESOME

 

just wait a few years

 

I do not have a word to say.

 

17 omg you'll be a virgin for ever!!!!

just kidding you'll have sex when you're ready. i guess you have other interests now nothing wrong with that

 

Sex before marriage.
What's the point of waiting?

 

well, one thing, you cant have Sexually transmitted disease when you get married, but as a option if sex before marriage, i prefer marriage for them. 2 virgins, for their first night together, memorable.

But i heard, if you dont touch your "friend", it could lead to diseases as well, i think STD is fine rather than loosing one or more of your eggs. I think its called testicle cancer or something... not sure, but oh well...

 

I skipped the post just to say my view...

Marraige first-makes the love more worth it

Think about it-if all your partner wants is sex then they may dump you once they find your weak points...

Plus if your not ready to have kids...why risk it?

Kissing and "baby" ie hugging things are fine...but no further...even if your sure she's the "one"...



Is I ever got a GF and she complained that I never slept with her...that's her fault I dump her I reckon-patients is a virtue...but no "quikie" marriges XD



Not ending up like my parents-shot gun wedding-not happy ethier of them-only together because me and my bro need support in this dark times...

 

1-Check for cameras first
2-Thats what condom is for.

 

1.Shouldn't have too

2.They break-plus how many times you rushed straight into a session and forget-would you run out to just go buy some and risk losing the passion?

Hell no!

 

No, there's other ways to have sex without penetration. There's also other forms of birth control -use it.

No, not really. For some girls losing their virginity is one of the most painful things right before child birth. It hurt like hell for me, I did NOT like the first time for the pleasure, the intimacy was nice but was clouded by the fact that it hurt and my husband (boyfriend at the time) did not enjoy it either since he saw I was in pain.

So? That person is in a relationship for the wrong reasons, dump their ass, or go with it. Like sex and relationships, practice makes perfect.

There are tons of methods for birth control, look it up, if you're that scared use two forms (condom and the pill/whatever). Or use more, there are a lot of ways for birth control. If you're also that paranoid, get a vasectomy, or get the tubes tied, although the last two are probably a bit too harsh for a boyfriend/girlfriend scenario.

Sex for me is sort of a bond between two people. An emotional AND physical connection, with an extreme amount of intimacy even if the sex is good or bad (is there such thing as bad sex?), although this is only possible in a relationship. And to be honest, by the end of the night, without that connection, it'd feel kind of.. empty, kind of. Sex reminds me of golden silence. The powerful feelings of love are there with a lot more going on than realized.

Everyone who supports the idea of marriage before sex seems to bring up the idea that the first time, IT'S GOING TO BE SO AMAZING or more meaningful.

WRONG. It won't. It'll probably be a let down. The guy will probably have the sexual stamina so that you can make love for five minutes, that and depending on the girl, sex will probably be painful for her. Intimacy is there, but that's about it. My husband and I's first time sucked, yes, it was cute, but it sucked. Every other time we did it, it was about ten times better than the first time. Practice makes perfect, it still holds true even for sex. Sex isn't more or less meaningful as the first compared to the thousandth time, just like kids (the first kid is just as meaningful as the second kid), or kisses.

When we got married, we went to our honeymoon. Best sex ever, but it only came with practice.

inb4 tmi Natalie.

 

Well, Sex is an important part of a lasting marriage. For more reasons than just pleasure. Waiting til your are married can lead to disappointment and incompatibility, causing tension in the marriage.

Do it, but do it safely.

 

Especially with older men that may or may not be hanging outside the high school at lunch time...


Wait, ignore that last statement

 

thats why you get a vasectomy and bang your friend (if its a girl) -.0