Premarital sex or marriage first?

in my opinion, premarital sex is alright because does it say in the bible that adam and eve were even married when they had sex? think about that. wew

 

you make me laugh you reference the bible but if you're really looking to it for answers you've looked for what's not there and not what is

 

lol you make me laugh too, i stated it with the bible because it is said that you have to get married first before you can have sex, and that is what my opinion is. why do you always question my answers?

 

As a married man with a quality sex life I advocate sex before marriage. The sexual instinct is not something that should be denied, it is akin to denying that you feel hungry or that you need to sleep. Sex cannot be defined as a means to reproduce, it encompasses much more; love, trust, lust and belonging ect.

I think it is very important that you know what turns you on, you can find out some of this for yourself by masturbating but until you experience, and get used to, the touch of another many aspects about your body and what turns you on or off will remain a mystery to you. Also, the way one partner may arouse you can be quite different to how another person does. Not all blow jobs are equal

You owe it to yourself and any potential life long partner to have an understanding of your body and your sexual needs. Good sex is something you can learn through trial and error, you cannot learn this without experience.

Those that advocate witholding sex until marraige often talk of the wonderful shared learning experience that can only happen when both partners are virgins. I say this is utter nonsense as having sex with any new partner can be a wonderful learning process.

I have had many sexual partners over the years, some good sex some not so good, if I had not experienced sex with my wife before we got married then I would not have married her. I am not willing to spend the rest of my life with a person who cannot turn me on, and she can only turn me on so well because she has her own sexual history from previous partners. Would I like a virgin wife?, no thanks, a girl who knows how to fuck is much better.

I honestly think it is sad that young people are being bombarded with messages, from religious types, that sex before marriage is wrong and sinful.

Sex is great and fun, go fuck lots; but never, ever, be a sexual predator and always use protection. If you do manage to find that partner of your dreams, have some respect and take time to learn their sexual needs before you propose marriage.

 

this really bugs me and its not just sex its anything to do with sexy times

i'm a youth worker so some of my time is spent teaching bits and bobs of sexual health.
for some odd reason i happen to work with allot of Christians.
anyway we were sat down me some teens and two fellow coworkers (both female one a complete bible head and reads it like the exact guide to her life and has had no life experience in any way, one very experienced in life but claims to be a theologian)

we are playing a sex ed board game, so you roll the dice go round the board and you pick up a card on the corresponding space.
you get the card and it has a question on it and you ask, everyone giggles and then brains start to work.
(the hole time miss Jesus doesn't ever say a word because she's had no experience of sex and doesn't agree with it. i think she should not have been there what do you think?)

then a question comes up "is it natural to masturbate"
and these two say no, no!?!? i get angry, we are trying to teach young people about their bodies and now their bible heads get in the way.
i proceed (before they destroy the mind of our pupils) to cut in loudly with "of course its natural" with a look that says you will feel my wrath if you continue this stupidity, they then try to disagree and then i slam them with a wealth of knowledge not only shutting them up but also letting the young people its know it is completely natural and that they don't need to feel like a dirty scoundrel when doing their business.

now if i was not there those young people could of potentially been misled and inevitably start to feel bad and embarrassed about something that feels so good and is completely natural.

 

The harmful little world that some religious people imagine is delt blow after blow by good thinking people like you.

 

alright!!! how many of you here got laid? "?

would you still say marriage first if you already did it?

 

LOL..... Well Umm... Sex Before Marriage= Life Destruction Chance by Pregnancy. and If someone will come to know about it even if those two human are married, Those 2 will have Shame on themselves when Community will Stare at them... lol

Sex After Marriage= No Probs mate... xD.

Lol here is a tip: If you are a single man or married man.... Go to a Married Girl and Have a sex with her... No Probs LOL....

 

i did my ex... and she had a boyfriend back then... she got pregnant and she still went with her current boyfriend... no idea if the baby was mine though... still... haha XD

 

I'm keeping my pants on till I get married. I don't wanna give my virginity away for someone I probably won't be spending the rest of my life with, because I am worth waiting for! *head up high*

 

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That's fine, as long as you're not bigoted and think you're above the rest.

Sex or physical lust is an important part of a relationship, although it's not the most important thing. It's something. If you *can* hold off on the sex WITH the lust then wow, just wow. Because every couple eventually starts making out, then it has to go somewhere from there.It's hard just to stop from there. And keep that going for a couple years until marriage. As long as sex is intimate and making love and safe, then yay. Enjoy it.

 

well i believe sex after marriage. Cos for one if you want to have a baby you know who your having it with. Many people say for religious reasons. Though i suggest its up to the person's point of view! hey you can change people if they want sex before or after marriage its either the way they have been brought up.

 

yeah... i agree... but i suggest if your going to do it, make sure you know what your doing and what youre getting yourself into...

 

I smell alot of virgins in this sector.........

 

yeahp... ALOT...

 

do what ever feels right and be very sure about you're choices, because you can't undo it

one isn't better then the other it's a personal thing.

i do think young people should think twice before having sex and why they're doing it...so they don't regret it.

one-nightstands...i don't like but but if it's good for you go for it!

live and let live
everybody makes his/her own choices and have to live with it.

 

Sex is better in a relationship that has meaning, yes.

 

yes some people even tell them about sex stories just to maintain their social life.

 

if sex is intimate in a relationship, i dont think youre going to tell everybody about it...

 

Hint for life, sex is not there to make babies. Good sex is a pleasure, something to be enjoyed and indulged in(safely), yes you can use sex to make a kid, but *shock horror* most people do it cause it feels great.

Why not? I am not suggesting being an ass and blabbing about your latest sexual encounter to random strangers, but I see no problem with talking about your sex life. Sex is not a weird dirty secret.
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Give me a good lover anyday over a bumbling virgin. Your virginity is worth nothing to someone who loves you. Your choice of course, each to their own.