I'm happy with my work, so leave me alone!

... Your fucking awesome. Any guy who chooses to help kids over money is a legend.

 

You are one of the very few people in the world who would do this you should be proud and keep on teaching those kids ya giving them a good example
By the way ya uncle sounds really corrupt

 

Most people say you're a great person, I would too. It actually depends on your personality. A greedy person would automatically change to the other option. You'd better stop teaching those kids after a few years, when they grow older, they get more 'rebel' and give you a hard ass time.

 

I need to clarify, there are 2 uncle. 1 is the mayor of our town. He is a very decent person. He is not corrupt and he really wants me to get a better job. The 2nd uncle is the one that threatened to kill me because he said i disrespected his mother and sister which i didnt do, or maybe not meant to do. cause there 2 sides. my side, i didnt respected and just told them my decision while my grandmother, mother and the 2nd uncles's side is that i disrecpected the 2 women.

well, today, i saw the 2nd uncle and he just gave me a bad stare...but didnt talked to me which is fine. i dont want to talk to him, and i bet, nothing good will come out from it and i might be dead now.

i'm trying to find a new house to rent so that i may leave this place..but well, no luck... hope i find one soon before christmas... i'm even planning to spend my christmas day inside the school even though it will be Chistmas vacation and no one will be there...

Its better to spend my christmas alone than being angry, hurt and threatend at this house, right?

 

I suppose alone is better than being hurt...

Won't the mayor uncle take you in for a short time?

We respect what your choice is-and whatever the other uncle is thinking...I do hope he see's the light...and prehaps explain himself like a decent person rather than hold a grudge for seemingly no apparent reason.

 

Well. my mayor uncle doesnt know about it and its not good to bother him for trivial things, he has more important jobs to do... and i dont like asking help from him, because of his position and all...

To be honest, the 2nd uncle was deported once by the mayor uncle back to the USA, because he is being an asshole and carrying gun around town without license and doing acts which reflects on the mayor's office. he is like just telling the town police that he is the mayor's brother so he cant be arrested. he is just here now in the country because of the US recession and he lost his job...

i wish the recession is over so he leave the country and go back there... and hope never come back...

 

cheer up I myself am a quit the EMO but YOU ARE ONE OF MOST IMPRESSIVE PEOPLE THAT I KNOW and in Finland at my Vocational studies there is some lazy teachers who really hate me personally really, and you are one of the few good people left in this little planet I respect that so don't be hard on yourself (gah I'm getting emotional here) so cheer up will yah

 

Honestly, I'm not a saint. I also get pissed off with my students. One time, while having a quiz/simple examination about the past lessons, a gave a question to be answered by a student i will call, and this guy just blurted out and shouted the answer... i yelled at him about it at the presence of his classmates. But after a gain my cool, I talked to him calmly and apologized about it, and lectured him about his acts.

I even asked why many of their classmates torments me with stuff like that and making me angry, they told me that some of them do that because they know that i will be angry but the next day, forget about the incidents, like I'm a new blank slate. lol

but what i feel about all of this incidents with the threatening with a gun and stuff, i became more bonded to my students like even though I have troubles at home and the work is like hell, at the end of the day, i feel a small feeling of good and accomplishment that another day, i thought them something they would use.

hahaha, sorry I'm the EMO here... feel free to berate me or shout out about me being a drama king.
I just feel good that i could express my feelings here rather than shouting at someone, even though nobody can hear me, i still can let out what is stored in my mind... and not being a mentally sicko...

 

I'm possibly more emo...

And what treatment the kids give you is like any school, just be thankful you are not teaching some of my mates...

They may be special school kids however they have to been put into a extra special school because of the violent antics they cause daily...the teacher had to adopt militery stlye tatics to control them...being nice and forgiving doesn't work with these guys...


ADHD+ADD+lack of respect=death sentance for the common teacher.

I only get along because they are the very few people that understand me and my unusal thoughts...that and we share our free stuff


Nothing like a good fireworks display..in a closed school...another perk of having mates like these XD

(Not that I encourage it but it was the safest in terms of starting a fire, only other choice was a busy main road...in in front of my work place )


I also have a fried who became a teacher...she always said how she loves kids...she mustn't expected how unruly high school kids are...she's already started posting who she got suspending from class on facebook XD






Let out your anger here, maybe one of us can provide help, not just emotionally...stay strong, never give up the fight-your a teacher-you need to be strong or else the students will eat you alive...and learn nothing except for the common thought "teachers suck" attitude...


(I guess this is how much we give a damn here to hear you out )

 

really you're from cavite too? we moved here since I was 8 but I'm studying at qc. it's really hard for kids to grow up in an environment like that and they'll eventually turn out to be one of them, either a drug addict or the next time you see them is behind the bars. these kids need some kind of hope. these kids need you.

it's kinda' hard to live in our country. right now i'm working for our country's largest government owned and controlled bank, and that's right, without getting paid. it's a requisite, you know what i mean. i had to deal with the inevitable every single day, and that includes my malicious boss and... taxes! filing all taxes and handling rejected accounts everyday makes me feel sick (i actually take short naps if the boss is not around heheheh). and what does our government offers? everything you need and want is taxable for pete's sake! i'm willing to pay even if it costs half of my salary only if it is for public hospitals, education for these children, road widening, houses, poverty, etc. but it's the other way around, the money goes straight right to these politicians' pockets. i guess this sounds like a rant. anyway, it's a different story, for me my choice was necessary. omg i'm saying too much, i'm really sorry i just thought you are one of my fellow countrymen so it feels comfortable opening up these things to you, don't worry it won't happen again! ;D

btw you're free to express all your emotions here, more and more people will listen, and that includes me. let it out pal, it's hard to resist it all inside, i know how it feels.

those people around you. doesn't really know what is going on around them, and i think they should be the one to be considered as fools.

 

Thats what i get for having business people in the family... its always about money...
I know we ALL need money, i never said i didnt needed the money, what i'm trying to say to them is that I dont need the money right now.

In Filipino, Di ko sinabi na d ko kailangan ng pera, ang sinabi ko, di ko pa kailangan ng pera sa ngayon. Those 2 are of different meaning.

But my grandmother ticks me off, always embarassing me with other people, always saying, Kasi yang anak mo, di daw kailangan nya ng pera kaya ok lang magturo ng libre.

Trans: There, your son said he didnt need money thats why he is teaching for free!

like, what the hell? if there is money in the school for me, I'll openly, gladly accept it, but in reality there is none...that doesnt mean i need to stop teaching, right?

So I currently live under her roof, that doesnt mean she can say things like that, she is lucky i'm not a pychopath or else she is already dead and tell the police it was a break in.

Thats why I'm currently looking for house, even if its a bedspacer near the school, I'll take it! I still have enough for a couple of months till i get a paying job. I'm sticking to that school, cause the administrators said next school year, I'll get a item in the DepEd which will pay me as a regular teacher... but even if not, I can still apply to a local university due to my M.A. degree...

 

Damanali,

While I do sympathize with your situation, I also at the same time cannot ignore the paradox that you have made upon yourself. But before I get to that, I want to share my experiences especially as a former teacher/tutor myself.

When I was in college, I took upon a small tutoring job to help pay for my tuition. But to me, that job became more than just earning a few bucks for myself; it was a job in which I was able to give back to the university as well as to the community. To help students not just with problems that they struggle with, but to learn.

One of the things I have picked up as an assistant teacher and tutor is that if you make learning happen for those students you have helped or taught, then that indicates that you have done a successful job. When I first started as a tutor, I had one student who constantly struggled with derivatives in Calculus. Although I was able to help him with ease on certain problems he struggled with, it was clear he was having difficulty with the concept even though I have covered the basics with him. Day after day, he was asking help for different problems on his homework, yet they were all on the same concept. It was clear to me that somehow I wasn't getting through to him.

So, I had to set him straight as soon as possible. After all, he had a midterm coming up within a week, and if he didn't obtain a thorough understanding of what I have taught him, he would be screwed on the day of his midterm. It was then that I required him to take notes from my sessions. And on top of that, I decided not to go through his math problems anymore; instead, I made him walk through his problems himself to show what he has learned and understood from me. And each following session we began, I start presenting a basic question to him in which he should know the answer right off the top of his head. And later on, I presented a few problems for him to solve. On the day before his midterm, he was able to do any problem I threw at him, even the most difficult ones I have given so far. That became an indication that I was doing my job properly, as that student was able to show what he has learned from me. Not only did he learn all the concepts in Calculus from me, but he also learned that in order to succeed in classes that he was struggling in, he had to pull his own weight of effort as well, and not rely on me (as well as other tutors) 100%. And fortunately, he turned out to be one of my successful cases.

Later on, I was became an assistant teacher and was given a group of students taking Calculus. At first, almost all the students in my class were goofing off. Even I had days in which I would yell and cuss at almost each of them (they're college students, so I was able to get away with that.) It was not long until after their first midterm that they all got a wake-up call (as they all got failing scores.) It was then that I gave all of them an ultimatum: either they 'shape the fuck up, or get the fuck out' (and yes, I said that word-for-word.) For most of them, that decision wasn't hard to make.

Each following session we began, I presented a question to them regarding a basic concept we covered (such as the definition of derivative). I required full participation from each and every student as I presented questions while I was giving the lecture (in which each student would be required to answer.) And each review day before exams was just me giving problems and making each student work them out on the board. The end result of that was everyone not only passed their class, but gained most (if not full) understanding of the subject itself. The ones that failed were the ones that slacked off and didn't bother showing up to my class sessions. Nevertheless, I was satisfied that I got through to everyone that attended my class. Their understanding of the subject was thorough, and their learning attitude was more mature than what it was in the beginning. They also understood regardless of the harsh treatment I have given them, that I actually cared about them and their college careers. I couldn't have been more happy about that.

So, that is my experience of being a tutor and a teacher. Being a teacher meant a lot to me back then as it gave me an opportunity to give back to the community, just like what you are doing now for those kids, Damanali. I have profound respect for teachers, especially the ones whom I have had in grade school, even though I didn't appreciate almost all of them at that time because I was an ignorant kid back then. So, I salute your work and your efforts Damanali. After all, being a teacher isn't as easy as many think it would be, even to the ones who are/were smart students and know everything. As a teacher, having knowledge in subjects is one thing, but making learning happen is a completely different skill apart from knowledge.

With that said, there were a few things I have noticed in your posts on this thread that have stuck out as paradoxes. One of them being the following:

You say you "don't need the money", yet you live under your grandmother's roof. And on top of that, you say that you are "looking for a house". What a contradiction to your first premise! If you didn't need the money, then you wouldn't be looking for a house, right? Otherwise, how do you expect to purchase a house (which usually is one of the most expensive purchases people ever make in their lives) in the first place? Even if you are renting a small apartment, it still becomes an expense that you have to deal with periodically.

Also, not only does that contradict your need for money, but it also contradicts certain values that you have presented here. More specifically, your political values. You have professed support for the conservatives and the Republican Party here in the United States. Though you have professed interests in US Politics, what perplexes me is how someone from another country can state their support for a political party in another country without fully understanding that political party's values, or at the very least, the US Political System itself. Do you have any idea what the core values of the Republican Party are Damanali? One of the core values advocated by the Republican Party is self-accountability and self-responsibility. That is, YOU take care of yourself. If there is something that you want or need, you have to go out there and earn it, and not expect anyone to approach you to give handouts.

Regarding money manners, everyone needs money to sustain and survive, unless you live in the great outdoors with Mother Nature. I myself took on a second job as a store clerk since I myself needed more money to pay off my tuition. Sure it wasn't a great job overall compared to my tutoring job (which I was still working at the same time), but I did pick up valuable experience that would certainly help anyone prepare for any career (especially in teaching!) One thing that I learned as a store clerk was dealing with different types of people. After all, we do come across people that come out to be assholes or dumbshits, but how you deal with them does reflect on your career outlook. If you are a type of person that can't handle such people, then you will have a difficult time making progress in your career.

My advice for you Damanali is this: get a second job that can provide you income until you get a paid teaching job. After all, you have your Masters Degree, and I'd say it is about time you start taking responsibility as an adult to become independent and obtain income to pay for your necessities. I myself only have a Bachelor's Degree, and I'm just about halfway through my Masters program in Electrical Engineering, yet I am also working full time at an engineering company on salary pay. How I got that job wasn't easy however; I had to be persistent with my job search until a friend of mine passed a word onto me about it since he overheard from someone else that knew I was looking for a job.

Second, whining about your problem here on this gaming forum isn't productive at all, especially in terms of finding a solution. If you want to whine about your problem, there are other forums out there that are intended to help people with such issues. However, someone brought up a point that you should talk to your other uncle who happens to be a mayor, yet you said you never brought the problem up to him, all because you have presumed doubts that he wasn't going to help you at all. I'd say, why not try and ask him for help. The worst thing you can do about your problem is take almost no action, especially when a plausible action has been presented to you that you can undertake towards solving your problem.

And last, please don't advocate your "conservative values" here on this forum anymore. You have very little idea of what being a "conservative" or a "Republican" means, and your current situation clearly shows it. If you want to express interest in US Politics, that's fine, but don't go supporting any US Political party unless you fully understand and meet the criteria of becoming a member of political party in United States. And besides, you are not even a US citizen; for you to voice your political opinion on American politics is absurd.

 

why is there a whole page posted here?

on topic
tell your bad uncle to get a job
he's the one thats supposed to be working for you

 

Re: I\'m happy with my work, so leave me alone!

Oh hypr, never expected from you to give me advice... thanks, i'll treat that you care for me... but pls, i'm posting this because i want somewhere to post this, and choosed here.. i said no need to post..i just want to let it out, but since some posted even you, you cared. i'm touched even if its sarcasm...

and why did you posted in that 2-hour long report about my political views with republicans and stuff? its not even about this topic/rant... but even so, i'll take your advice about it, and i apologize, but pls, if this topic is about work, pls, you can post all you want about it, but your recall of my point of view about politics is not even said in this topic and out called for.

if you want to tell me, or berate me about political views, pls revive my other threads... its like a personal grudge to me for bringing it up... i dont hate you or anything, thats why i hope you never bring my other views in my other topics...if its about politics, then tell me politics, if its about teaching, then tell me about teaching, k?
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also, to make that paradox clearer.. i would like to repeat this: I NEVER SAID I DONT NEED THE MONEY. What I'm trying to say is: I DONT NEED THE MONEY RIGHT NOW. The 2 are different.

I have money on my bank accounts thats why i want to rent a house/buy one if possible which is currently a bit short at the moment. I live under her because i like to save and keep my money on the bank instead of spending it. But since i have the dilema right now, renting a house is one of the best options i can think of... I could spend the money i have saved thru the years and help me live out of this house...

Also, i cant go to the uncle mayor because its nearing elections and all of his attention should be about elections, if i asked him for help, it will cause a bit of ruckus and help his enemies use that to his downfall... Also, remember, my grandmother is his mother, who do you think he will side with, his nephew or his grandmother, sister and brother? and i know it because its always been like that.

 

Now I understand why hypr post the way he does...ex-teacher it seems.


I am surprised that he never said anything about the gun you mentioned demanali, but then again, if I know from hypr's post, he does point out interesting points and contridictions...and he does seem to remember what people post in topics which could explain why he brought up politics.

He MUST be a god at Pheonix Wright XD

(Like Miles Edgeworth in a way...who I favour out of the whole thing )



That said, I still feel sorry for your situation, just slug it thru, and hopfully you'd be able to move out in order to save yourself the harm/emotional stress

 

Well working for free is a waste of time IMHO, BUT you do it to help people in need, so that's definately a massively cool thing of you to do.

Don't pay any attention to people who call you stupid, in the end it's your life and your decision.
Good luck in the future

 

Re: I\'m happy with my work, so leave me alone!

If my tone came out to be harsh, forgive me, but do understand that I'm not trying to berate you or put you down at all.

The reason why I made a point regarding Republican values is because certain values that they have should have pertained to you. That is self-accountability and self-responsibility. I intended for those two concepts to be the main highlight of my point there. After all, you could learn a thing or two about self-responsibility: one of the things that you can do to demonstrate that is actively seek for help with people that you know. That goes for your other uncle who is a mayor as well. I'm certain he can possibly help you if you seek for his assistance.

Damanali, you do need money right now at this moment whether you realize it or not. After all, with you living with people that constantly berate, harass, and threaten you almost on daily basis, I'd say you do need to get out of there so that way you would avoid any further tensions with your family. Just staying at your grandmother's house unfortunately would cause your problem to possibly inflate into a crisis.

Also, can't you contact your uncle privately? If it's not possible, then how soon is it until the election campaign is over? And regarding the family affinity that supposedly occurs (i.e. your uncle siding with your grandmother, and the other uncle with the gun), who in the right mind would allow their sibling who brandishes his pistol (by the way Mds64, I did pick up on his uncle's pistol in this thread but I decided to avoid it then as gun issues are a very sensitive manner to me) on his flesh-and-blood, least side with that person? And if that uncle did threaten you with his pistol, why not report that to the local authorities? Even though your other uncle is a mayor, the Phillipine National Police should be independent from your uncle's influence as a public official. And if possible, just tip off the PNP anonymously. After all, anyone who pulls a gun out for no good reason is a dangerous individual, family member or not. Guns should always be treated with respect, especially when it is drawn out. Guns should only be pulled out with a reasonable conscious intent to shoot at something during a life-and-death situation, not out of anger or hatred, just like what your uncle of yours did. After all, guns have the power to kill people, which should be why any gun owner should exercise extreme caution with such weapons. After all, I still have my gun locked up in my safe unloaded, and I hope that I don't ever have to bring it out, least use it at all.

Damanali, please do actively seek help. Doing nothing, or avoiding possible actions to undertake to solve your problem won't make your situation any better. Do go undertake another job for temporary income. It should at least get your family of yours off your back for the moment. Then, when you do get that paid teacher job, you can just focus on that entirely.

 

Your mean uncle is a poofta. Do you have some dirt on him or something you did that angered him in the past? (Break TV, Steal 1ml off him etc.) plus, how are going to pay for rent?

 

At Hypr, thanks for the advices, never expected it from you. Thank you. I will find a job with a steady pay as soon as possible. I even got a phone call from the National Historical Institute and they want to interview me about my application last June. The is for next monday. hope i get the job, its a dream job for me.

And the mayor and PNP you mentioned are under the DILG or Department of Local Government... its the same and the mayor has strong influence on the PNP due to him appointing the towns Chief of Police or Hepe in our language... and here in our country, family matters a lot and just pointing guns is not a big crime here to be punished and he didnt brought it out.. it was pointed at me at their house so in the PNP's eyes, its not a crime... a crime here would be to bring it out or points it outside of the house...

@ klaimore
No, i didnt do anything to him to make him angry.. he just gets angry when any of his family is emotional...and yes, they get emotional whatever that you will say... and i got money from all the savings I did and winnings..so i got a healthy amount to sustain me thru until i get a paying job.

And last? whats poofta?

 

As long as you did the right thing, then you have. Not many would pass up a paid job to continue a volunteer job, so kudos to you.