I wanna kick her so bad... -_-

Ughhhh...

I'm so glad there's a rant page here...!!!!

You see, there's this girl in my class...
She's kinda small, but she's good in sports and she has good grades.

Wait, stop... you're thinking im jealous???

No way. I'm not done yet lemme finish.

So here, you've a got a really popular girl...
But deep inside... she's scary @_@
I was a new student to this school 2-3 years ago...
But now (not to boast) but i was becoming a little more "popular".
Getting higher grades, good in sports, socializing a bit...
So this girl im talking about, she went and sabotaged me T-T
She like made up some lies and spread them, and since she's "popular" everyone followed her.
I don;t care about the others, but i was expecting my friends to stand by me and all but they didn't either!
And I didn't do anything wrong!!!!

Then I heard about her sabotaging another girl- Our top valedictorian.
She went on saying: "Look at her handwriting it's so neat i don't like it."

WAT THE-

just cuz the handwriting's nice she gets like that!?

I thinks he has some serious issues...
When she feels someone is rising up to her she pulls that some1 waaaaayyyy down.
Geez.

When she tried to do that to me I had no girl friends so i hated going to my class and doing group works and all cuz i'd be left out on my own.

Since my school was co-ed the "gays" were siding with her too.
Luckily i found friend- a guy. We became close, but it was still hell to go to my classroom. I felt like a total out cast. I didn't even do anything and they were laughing at me like as if i was a clown or something and made jokes about me. A group of my closest friends (pLUS MY BEST FRIEND) were once playin truth or dare, and all their dares were about me! This guy who i liked that time, he was dared to tell me I looked pretty that day.

He suddenly came up to me and looked like he was about to laugh and said the dare then fell on the floor laughing, and their group was laughing as well. I didn't know what to do so i pretended to smile and take the joke and laugh a quick "whatever isaac!" (that was his name).

Then i was heading to my seat when I over heard them talking. Apparently Isaac was daring my best friend to hug me and tell me i was her best friend ever.

I couldn't believe my ears... that had to be a dare?!
i mean we're best friends hat shouldn't be a DARE.
DAREs are something you hate doing!

So i heard my best friend say "Aw cmon please don't make me do that i don't want to go near her! let alone touch her!" And she was begging them to change the dare.

That was it.
The world tore down.

Just because of one small little girl... whom i though was one of my friends... whom i helped when everyone was against her i was helping her and stood by her...damn.

 

You are not the only one in this world. Same thing happened to me from age 7 till 16.
But for me it was worse, I got beaten up around once a week. =/ So you should be lucky they don't do that.
(It mainly was because I looked like a good for nothing nerd.)
I also tried a lot of things, and I think I should help somebody with the same problems I once had. (Damn that makes me feel old, even though I'm only 18.)

Long story is long, skip to conclusion if you are lazy.
Well, in my case I got beaten up a lot and had no friends, my first step was to become stronger.
This did help in a sense, most bullies tend to put weaker people down just because they are afraid it will happen to them.
That's their weakness. So basically, bullies should be afraid off you.

Now when I was stronger (at age of 13y) about half of the bullies stopped bulling me, however my classmates were also kind of scared.
And I still got bullied, so I tried it a different way. Not just fighting the bullies and try to scare them away, but try to socialize in terms of seeking fellow victims and kinda protecting them. They were weaklings so they would not turn against me, and it showed that I wasn't a bad guy at all.

This made certain people more eager to talk to me, but still people were afraid. So I started to be a bit more goofy. Some of my classmates liked this, and I got a few friends. Just liek with you though, there were people trying to pull me down. You can't prevent this.
The best thing to do in my opinion is to plainly scare them. Or counter it by spreading rumors about those bullies.

I managed and got more friends (some did betray me over time but I always managed to keep a good group of friends), this resulted into more people liking me over time and most people forgot about me being scary.
In the end I got more and more friends and I kept getting stronger thus bullies didn't come near me.
I even got a girlfriend, and from that point on it kept going better, until one day I collapsed and it started over.
(Suppressed feelings ruined me.)

Conclusion
Bullies try to look for the weaker ones, they do this generally by looking at appearance.
No offence but you might need to try and alter your style and looks (but stay who you are, that's very important.)
I for one was wearing cotton pants and some weird colored blouses, glasses and no gel.
Changing to jeans, t-shirts and some gel did wonders for me. And now I'm wearing contacts, I see better with them anyway.

Also try to be more powerful, you might want to become good at P.E. that tends certain people to like you.
As you are a girl, I don't think it would be wise to go bodybuilding. xD But martial arts like karate could do some good (did it for me). Just try to scare the bullies with who you are, don't curse them or things like that.
Ignoring them and looking strong is the best way. (Just don't scare normal people like I did.)

Try to get more friends, look for people in the same category as you. Don't try to become friends with those girls that are hostile towards you. They usually end up bad in life anyway.

It's not easy, but I believe you can do it. As a side note, you might just have to kick her and prepare for a beating, but that might not work out so well. I've seen bad cases.

If this is to much for you I have something to comfort you:
I don't know how old you are but this kind of bullying usually ends around the age of 16 - 18 (it does here, I life in the Netherlands so it might be different somewhere else.)


I hope I helped you, it sure sucks to be threated this way. Good luck with getting a better life, you deserve it.

 

I personally have always had problems with having only a small group of best friends who socialise with other groups who aren't sure about me. However there are two good solutions to the perma-friend problem, one being that you stick with a certain group (better if smaller) of people and hang with them until they accept you in. Another is to stick with the friend/s you currently have to branch out into other social groups (i've recently done a lot more of that and have become more popular with people i previously found odd or didn't think i'd get on with).
My main group of friends all sort of joke about each other and in a way bully each other around. But as we all do it and only do it between ourselves. When you've got friends who let you do that kind of stuff with them, then you know they'll stick with you.

As I've had a situation where everyone (even most of my best friends) have turned on me (I accidentally said something quite cruel and harsh while meaning to say something sincere and not at all evil), I know how alone you may feel at this point. I was abused over this for several days until i pretty much broke down into tears in a public area (I'm one of the youngest in my year so i'm not as "emotionally mature" as the others) and a teacher with a vice-head had to step in. I then told the person who i'd offended (one of my friends as well so he knew i didn't mean what i said properly) and we became closer than ever. Also luckily we resolved this on the last day of term so when I got back everything was back to normal (or as close as can be).
I get that your problem is more long-term that that, but you've got to ride the storm until the end. Try and ignore the bullcrap that everyone else gives you and stick with your true friends who'll most likely support you through these difficult times. It'll make you tighter with the people who are friends with you now, and it'll show that dwarf queen that she's not going to be able to push everyone over just through social sabotage. Ride The Lightning then when the time comes, get her back for it. I know it's a bit cruel but try and show her what it's like to be on the bottom of the social order. That way she'll stop for good...

 

Take her down... it's the only way.

In all seriousness though, if these people are acting like this... they arent your friends. Ditch them.

 

Teachers might work in some cases, but in most cases they only make it worse.
It's a risk you can take. Only thing going to teachers for me ever did was me getting a punishment for disturbing them.
And when a teacher finally 'helped' me it just attracted more bullies.

 

loving the vice going to the bully's room (I take it was a school with accommodation).

but seriously telling an adult is a good idea SO LONG AS the teacher swears they won't use your name else it WILL escalate.
Parents or relatives are also good for confiding in, so long as they don't take it into their own hands...

 

Hmm bullying these days are an issue
I have never been actually bullied so I wouldn't know how you feel but
I would say the best way is talking about it
Tell it to someone you trust to get some support
and then maybe try talking to the bully

 

Think of it this way, quality friends are better than quantity of friends.

 

I think this may be the cruellest form of bullying, the mental form

She has effectively ruined your social life and made you pretty much from what I read lose faith in humanity. She's not physically hurt you because bruises fade (abd she's a hobbit) instead she has decided to scar you on the inside by taking everything (social) from you. That's the worst kind of bullying as it's deep and permanent.
While you will have to move on from this low, it's pretty much guaranteed to affect you always. So i would say revenge isn't an option as you'll only continue the cycle. the best and only thing you can do is become oblivious to your abusers so they lose interest.

If you play ball in the game, the game will only carry on around you.
I'd carry that advice with you through these times as it's a summary of how to deal with the problem and finish it for good.

 

@airandius: thanks for the help but i don't really think my case is "bullying"... or is it? i think the reason why "the girl" got mad at me and made her victim in the first place was because (not to brag) most boys were starting to "like" me cuz i do sports a lot and i do taekwando and and all. So i'm more like a "tom-boy" side, computer games and all. But i study in a "religious" school, see. Can't really do much of beating up anybody. but thanks, really. I'm glad to know there's someone out there who had a kinda similar problem and cares for me too.

@ to the rest who commented: well, that's the issue, this "girl" i;m talking about is known as second best in grades, volleyball varsity, small and cute= no harm done.
see what I mean? that's why when she tells people i do "this and that" they believe her since she doesn't seem like the type to lie or make stuff up. The only one who WOULD know that she's lying... is ME, since i know i never did any of those stuff! since she's more "popular" they never believe me. so...

 

Personally, I would not take anything that makes living harder. Do what you can to ease the situation, without making it a big deal. Phase her out. Also, just a note, physical violence is always an option ^_^ Good luck. You still have friends you can talk to right?

 

if its bullying thats already a type of harassment so you could send her to prison that will show her how its done.

 

I had a similar problem, (well many but one stands out).
Every *race of bastards expleted* I meet takes an immediate... hatred I'd almost say, towards me :S
But anyone, one in particular was a COMPLETE jackass and eventually started spreading rather awful rumors.
Now, being in the position I already was I suppose I was lucky in the fact I had a few friends but they were all very close ones.\
Anyway basically the rumors seemed rather stupid so when he came up to me and starting saying shit like "your mums a whore" or something (not a real example but it'll do) a nice simple retaliation was "how would you know? o.0 are you... stalking me?? WHAT THE F***!"
aight, cutting this short cos I gotta go, you might want to find "loopholes" in said rumors and make a fool out of "little miss popular" then

 

hmm.. she is cute??

where is your school ill teach her a lesson! :

 

TRUST ME.

Drama is not worth it AT ALL! As cheesy and corny as it sounds, you are 2000000x better off ignoring her and the dumb kids that are laughing at you.

As the guy a few posts above said, bullying just shows that they're losers on the inside. If they keep bugging you, just look at em weird and walk away. They're wasting your breath, and hey, you're not wasting your time! Just find like a group of good friends and stay away from the dramawhores. Being popular isn't everything, too, because if the popular kids you're talking about act the way they do now when they get older, I think you and I both know where they're gonna end up.

I've seen stuff like this go down, man. It's a lot worse in the U.S. than in the Philippines (don't call me a stalker, I checked your profile) I bet.

 

here is a tip:when someone is bullying you just look him in the eye and do nothing!!(it always works for me)

 

That's a great example of looking stronger to scare off the bully. Things that intimidate generally work against bullies.
Their fear is to be bullied.

That might bring more issues.


@ DSaddictforever

So she isn't much of an bully? Well, most things that work for bullies also work for plain annoying people.
Try to look tough like intimidating tough.
I guess staring like bhatooth said is a good way to intimidate without doing anything bad or scary.
But there are so many things one can do.

Just don't pull out a weapon and stab her, I've seen that happen to much in some cities.
About things as little as not giving back a pen. (Some people have issues.)

No matter how harsh your fate might be, as long as you live you can overcome them. And I'm sure you will. =)

 

I had similar problems some time ago.
It's a good tactic to confuse or scare such people.

Some idiot mobbed me just for fun.
One day I just laughted at his face while pointing a finger on him, out of the nowhere. The expression in his face was totally epic.

Another time when he bugged me
I asked him "um... how many was it?"
He: "How many what?"
Me: "How many times shall I stab you?"
He instantly backed off and looked extremely terrified. XD
Later we got along very well, but I guess he still thought I would cut off his skin the next moment.




If someone ever tries to beat you, just hit him straight in the face. It doesn't need to be a hard punch.
Yet the resistance will show him what he can expect if he takes you on.
Most bullies are nothing more than big weaklings themself.