How to be not shy anymore?

After a long time thinking I made the dis scions of looking for help.
I am too f*cking shy and I don't want to be anymore.

E.g.:

- I don't dare to talk to a girl (such a shame...)
- I don't dare to talk to someone if they aren't in a big group.
- In a big group I don't talk at all. I avoid it!
- When I go to a new group: eg. a new class, where I don't know anyone, I am too afraid to talk...

Well, it has much to do with my past... yeah bulling ... but now it is 10 years later and I am a boy of 17 years old! So I don't want to be shy anymore!

To start I do a vacation job which resembles like scouts but daily and the whole day. For dutch people: Speelplein! And i am going to start doing scouts again soon.

But what are other tips to end shyness? Yup, this is a personal topic but hey: HELP A HUY OUT WILL YA?
Questions about me, post them. If they are to personal I don't answer or answer via a pm!

Thanks for the help already!

 

Man up.

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Bullies can screw you up pretty bad.

There really is no magic bullet to anything, you just have to start small and build up.

Listen to what the people you want to talk to talk about, research that topic so you'll have something to say to them when you talk to them, and you'll find that after they/he/she realizes that you have a like of that in common, they'll say other things they like, and, who knows, they might bring up a topic that you know a lot about already!

Just imagine the girl: "Oh, I love a man who knows how to pirate video games..." But anyway, try this.

 

Luckly I got topics like cats and work! And I can be funny if I do my best!

 

alcohol,it makes you do lots of stuff youd regret

 

Get some confidence.
Get in the gym and/or learn martial arts/boxing is my advice.
Failing that, join the army, guaranteed to cure shyness in 4 weeks.

 

not really the best choice...he wants courage..not something that makes him make mistakes..

now in my opinion, courage is something you build overtime, i know this, because i myself am a shy person. you may not know it by my forums life, but in real life, I'm probably the shyest person in my city...so i just recommed doing things with different people,m that help you feel good, to begin building courage. =)

 

PM either suisiseki or LittleKill & undergo either one's tutelage. In just a day or two you'll be cured of your shyness I guarantee it!

 

Their gonna rape him. You want that?

 

Nah, LK wouldn't rape a little boy as he's into necrophilia, according to Reider. As for suis? I'm pretty sure he's into pornstar chicks.

 

this, lol, kidding, it is a bad way to do it, it works, but its temporary, and causes other problems. i had the same problem as you. you just need some courage. self esteem works too. as msg said, gym is a good way to get these

 

i'm not alone anymore.

 

Yup, you would never believe I used to be shy. I was so shy I never left the house for days at a time till I started the gym with my dad aged 15.

 

good. fucking. lord.

 

Hey jones I think Sarra93 here liekz yah

 

Shush you

 

I loled.

Exercising may be a good way to build up confidence if you're unhappy with your appearance. Getting along with people to the point that you feel comfortable around them and converse freely is generally only really difficult if you or they try to make it so, in my experience.
Just start chatting with someone, make jokes, see if you have any shared interests that you both find fun to discuss etc. It's rarely a good idea to start any sort of relationship by showing any extremes of opinion though, so keep it light to start with (unless you hit upon a topic that you both agree on, and the other person expresses their views strongly; in which case, it may be a good idea to take cue from them and be blunt).

 

For that matter put him under Reider's wing...then again could we handle two of them?

 

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maybe YOUR MOM? xD
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