Girls.

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The media and pornography is not real life.

Once you get into the real world, you'll realize that the way males are portrayed in high school and in the media is not the way they react in the general populace as adults. The real average woman is acceptable as beautiful to the vast majority of males.

 

It isn't 'girls'. It is an emotion we call 'lust', or what the more loving people call 'love'. Men to men, women to women, women to men or just men to women, whatever it is, everyone holds their counterpart of lust higher, because they can get something out of it. Usually it's the same feelings in return, or just simple procreation.

If we didn't find our counterparts attractive or lustful we would have died out. It's purely for keeping the species alive, in my opinion.

Oh, and the whole 'Am I the only one?'. No. If I can't have a conversation with a girl about something I won't bother, and it doesn't matter what she looks like, just as long as I enjoy her company is enough.

That isn't to say I don't have my own vanity when it comes to the class of women I would like to date, quite the opposite. Attractiveness still is a major part in society, it just isn't as important as the media would like to portray, nor is the shallowness of both sexes.

 

Hmmm that's about right.

 

Sorry, could it be something smplified? I'm not fully awake...

 

The media is wrong, men aren't pigs, women are loved for personalities.

 

OK.

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*Leaves quietly and closes the topic's door after he's gone*

 

First subject: Welcome to the commercialization of the "feminine mystique". Women have this really weird-ass need to feel accepted by all and sudry. This is capitalized upon by the media and big companies, who promote the idea that if one isn't beautiful they will not be accepted in society. Further to this, they claim that having "things" will lead them to be accepted. Hence the whole makeup thing.

And we don't hold them highly because of their looks, we hold them highly because VAGINAS.

To your second point? Welcome to real life, Skippy. Grow a sack and find something else to consider boning, girls are highly irrational creatures. You've been friendzoned and there is literally no way out. You will never get with her. Ever. The most you'll ever be is emotional support, a crutch for her to lean on while she sleeps her way through every single one of your friends and every asshole you know.

 

Haha. Epic win.

It's easy enough to get a 'friend-zone' into bed though. You just have to give up and not care any more. Once they know they can't have you, it's back on heat.

I realise that's a generalisation, but for the most part; True.

 

At 13, anything you feel for a girl is pointless anyway.

 

I didn't realise he was 13... I agree.

 

I feel the first point has been answered, so I'll do the second.


Some girls tend to have an habit of going towards someone who's a total ass, prehaps it's looks, prehaps it's because of something you haven't seen, ethier she'll realise on her own he's an ass or she'll be stuck to him for the rest of her life, like how my parents are together despite the fact they preety much hate each other.

I would advise to NOT try to pull her away, but to be friends, if she needs help, be out to help, but no further than that.

She obviously isn't interested in you from the sounds of it, you can care about a person as much as you like, but if something doesn't "click" then they won't like you.


In one case, for the first time in my life a girl actually LIKED me, but because I didn't feel the click, I just told her to f*** off (she kept hugging me all night...not that i felt uncomfortable but I just didn't want any contact from anyone...unless I feel something click : )



So yeah, just aim for being a friend to her, your feelings don't matter because she ether doesn't care or as I see it, her's might be taking more of a hit on the relationship, you trying to worm in may make things worse so keep back and just act on a distance.


I have a therory but if I say it here I know I'm gonna get slammed for it

 

I thought the hairs was everything....

Not the looks..

 

If you genuinely think that you are the only person who appreciates women for things that aren't superficial you really must have a limited view of the world/Internet or else hang around with low-lives. However; if the reason that you created this thread is to garner attention and big yourself up as a respectable modern gentleman, could you please not do so at the expense of the rest of us by suggesting that the majority of men are shallow and are the main cause of female insecurity.

"Also, don't call me dude, dude. That really isn't helping me feel good about myself, neither is you creating a patronizing monologue. Go write a Twillight book".
"Whoa butch, don't have period" He uttered like an imbecile

 

...I cannot follow that post at all. Use quote tags.

 

I just checked out kyrodon's age in his profile and now I feel really bad and take back my horrible comments. T-T

 

Keep thinking about girls girls girls.(Random Elvis moment..)

 

just stop worrying about it

you can never change people, but put your attention to this.

people do not always have their own ideas, does not always think for itself and is guided by what the TV says (as you see it seems illogical, but believe me I have seen people like that) no one can tell you who loves you or not, you must commit your own mistakes to realize that

So all I can say is ... that people are like that, and you should don't care about it

 

aww i'm not sure how the 13 yr old kid will understand that.

sorry but I don't think I can consider lust as an emotion. instinct it is as my personal opinion =P

I like what you said there. I'm not sure if we can change people. Most people don't always have their own ideas (pls don't generalize though) and doesn't always think for itself. Although I don't think you have to commit mistakes to realize those. Most people are like that, and I just can't help but to care, but there's nothing I can do I guess.

@kyrodon, most of the guys pay attention to 'looks' rather than personality. that's reality, not just from the media, and most of the girls always have the 'need to please' everybody. you're young and you have a different opinion, but it might change as you grow up. I personally think that looks and personality both matters, but personality will still make a relationship last longer.

and I am glad you got it off your chest. romulation has a great community, don't you think? we're all here to listen

 

At first, you will fall in love with her because of her 'looks',
but later on, you will decide whether or not to be with her because of her 'personality'.