Dating/Relation Help

Hello romulation users, I'm currently in middle school right now and we're already halfway through the year. There is this girl that i really have crush on and i'm going to a different high school then she is. We both know each other and i think she likes me but im not sure. We've talked before but not in private, the only periods i have with her are lunch and p.e, but at that time she is talking to her friends. I really need help she's such a great person :'(

 

Roll up like a straight balla while you decked out in yo bling and ask her bitch ass out, dawg. Her peeps ain't shit brah, you ridin' the wave here and ain't gonna let anyone bring you down, so you got that ice chance of making her yo bitch. Dawg.

 

well im not what you call (gansta-ish) we're both mexican but im a metalhead and shes more you know, popular-ish, listens to rap and stuff im kinda popular to but... i cant do what you said i'll make an ass of myself

 

Talk to her and just say "wanna talk after school" and then explain yourself there, suck up any doubts and just say it.


If she wants to be just friends, and your fine with that, get some form of contact going, who knows she might set you up XD


Or you get lucky and find out she likes you more than you thought.

 

You best be tripping, brah, 'cause nobody who's really on the level gives a damn 'bout what some hoes think of him, you dig?

 

well after school theres always a crapload of students there and in lunch there is neve a really private place to talk

 

WORD DAWG, STRAIGHT UP AD TO THE VICE MAING.

 

Well, just say " Hi mamasita! como estas chula " XD ok but seriously... I don't see whats the problem? you already know her and have lunch and PE time with her.. it's not like you never spoken to her before.. it shouldnt be too hard, just go on with a normal conversation and then just ask her if she want's to hang out after school or whatever and make plans like going to eat or to the movies.

You don't need to say anything about a date, casually ask her if she would like to go some place after school.

EDIT
middle school, I wouldn't take it so seriously.

 

What my boi dragneon is trying to say is that you should go up to dat shawty all "Hola! Me gustaría vete a la mierda en el culo!"

 

This is the second topic asking for help with dating and relationships...or at least on how to start one.

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The situation you've described is like all of the situations I've run into in my life. The exact same one.

Lemme guess, you've had a crush on her since at least the beginning of the year, if not for YEARS. The unsure part of her liking you or not shouldn't be such a mystery. It should be plainly obvious whether she does or not. Look for clues. When you talk to her, does she pay attention to you or does she kinda nods off? Does she laugh at your jokes? Are your jokes necessarily funny, or just crass? If she's laughing at your jokes that aren't side-splitting hilarious, then you have a shot. If not, look for another and spark the attraction IMMEDIATELY. Don't wait half a semester to take action. I have a 3 second rule. Within 3 seconds of eye contact, you should be over where she is talking to her.

You also make it seem like she is the ONLY girl left on the planet and if you fail with this one, you'll NEVER meet another nice girl ever again...Don't think like that. You think she is so special when really, there are thousands of girls out there with the same hairstyle, same "features," same personality, beliefs, personal experiences, etc. When you meet a girl, you are not really meeting a unique person, but more of an archetype, just a distinct type of girl. Don't put so much importance into this ONE girl that you simply can't live without her.

 

Ask her what she's doing outside of the kitchen, and that you need a turkey club sandwich, right away.

 

I find the 3 second rule to be effective if taken lightly. It should not dictate how your life is run, but it should guide you to what you want. Most guys see a girl they like, make eye contact for a split second, look away, then spend the rest of the night wishing they had gone up to her and started talking. It shouldn't run your life. It's not like I see a girl, and then say, oh, three second rule, I HAVE to go talk to her. If you do that, you'll have absolutely no life, because all of your time is devoted to "girl hunting." Be selective.

I remember being 11. In fact, that was the year I asked this girl out and got shot down completely, and of course, it was someone who I had known for 4 years prior. That one rejection had such a lasting impact on my life, repeating this vicious cycle that happens to so many guys, and it wasn't until I was 19 (2008) that I started to demolish every belief I had, and start over. Even if you look at my posts from when I first joined this site, and look at my posts now, you'd probably think they are completely different people. And in a way, without going mental, they were different personalities.

This is a different ballgame. You're right, but where do you think women got the ideas that they can get just about anything that they want, get the notion that a man will pay for her and support her, that she has the power in the relationship, and all the other ideals that are conditioned into their minds? They get them at this age. They start to realize that they're being treated differently by men as opposed to when they were younger at let's say 8.

In a way, he has the advantage for now, because these notions haven't been completely programmed in yet. It is better to learn this stuff now, than later, almost to the point of being too late. It is never too late to turn back and go down the right path, but the longer you wait, the longer the walk back to the fork in the road. He has another advantage in that his identity, his perception of himself is in its early stages and can be changed. School is a social arena, and having a bad reputation (or no reputation) at the beginning will only make your life harder. Get in with the "in crowd." It isn't too late to change. People go away to college to reinvent themselves because of the lack of the social pressure and the reputation that they earned while at high school. You can be one step ahead of the game and change now before high school even starts, putting you in the right direction.

 

Be a gentleman... say something stupid... don't think before you speak just speak... she'll probably laugh if she likes you... but you can always win a woman with a smile trust me...

 

Ask if she can talk to you after school, and come out with your feelings. Just be honest. Even if she doesn't like you, I'm sure she'll be touched by the fact that you were so sincere and rolled up the courage to tell her the truth. Or maybe that's just me who feels that way. I don't know.

 

You are going to be godlike when you lose your idealism and get properly cynical.

 

Every time I do that I get depressed, dood...

 

Best way to get a girl is to get drunk at a night club.

 

Note: if you get yourself drunk, there's no guarantee it'll be a girl you get.